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But stay human
What did you feel after my last article: skeptical, angry, afraid, ashamed? Each of those can sit between reading a solution and standing up to act on it. This piece walks through all four, then gives you a short exercise to find where your own avoided decision got stuck.
Make the good enough decision
I asked a CEO for a 57% raise, and by that afternoon he had said yes. Nothing about me had changed across dozens of failed interviews, so the difference was the man across the desk and how he made decisions. Here is what his way of deciding looks like, and how you can borrow it.
The price is the grind
For five months I wrote into a void, chasing growth numbers and waiting for an algorithm wizard who never showed up. The silence only lifted when I accepted that I was the wizard, and that nobody finds your garden until you spend time in other people's. Before I step away for a while, I'm leaving you a short pen-and-paper exercise for the days when your own silence starts to look like rejection.
Mac Miller's music helped my emotional maturing
"It was a front though, a front that portrayed a laid-back, easy-going semi-professional basketball player who was good at smiling. I thought it was a weakness, as I believed, though boys don't cry. If I could have one last dinner with my father, I'd play him Circles — and I'd also tell him that I love him."
I Don’t Need You To Be Honest With Me
There are known unknowns and unknown unknowns, the sentence that turned everything upside down in my first weeks as a program manager for 150 people. Years later, coaching instead of managing programs, I noticed the same split hiding inside every "I don't know" a client says out loud. Some are simply true, and the rest are something closer to a favor people do for themselves, one I've learned not to take at face value.
Carl Rogers Taught Me To Listen With Love
"Yes, a romantic relationship and a marriage are the toughest and longest work you will never receive a penny for. Nevertheless, it's your best interest to give it everything you have. What I have learned about person-centeredness certainly helps, but without her, our marriage remains one-armed."
Who Is Protecting Who(m)?
Feeling drained by someone does not always mean they have taken something from you. The exhaustion may come from carrying unspoken expectations, keeping score, or resisting who they are. When you loosen that grip, you can choose compassion, distance, or connection without abandoning yourself.
Your Project Plan Is Built on Layered Lies
We build workplace dreams from assumptions, hollow confidence, and the comforting belief that everything is under control. Each new layer takes us further from what people know and feel able to deliver. Eventually, the dream turns against everyone trying to keep it alive.
The Slower Venom of Burnout
Burnout built for more than year, and for most of it, my life looked like I was winning: new father, freshly promoted, married to someone I adored. This is the story of the spider I knew too well, the friends who saw it before I did, and what it took to look it in the eyes.
The Problem With Coaching
"It's frightening that a stranger might truly witness you before you become 'fixed.' The ironical problem with coaching is that if you decide not to share what feels shameful, you might remain stuck in front of the door. You already made a decision about what not to change."
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